I'm moving in less than three weeks far away from my mom. The furthest we've ever lived from each other for any length of time. Twenty-five years of being in the same household. And over sixteen years with my step-dad, Donyvan.
They are the cutest and I strive to find a love like theirs.
She's my best friend in the whole wide world. I've never kept secrets from her because even if I don't tell her right away, I feel guilty about not telling her and eventually I confess all. But she doesn't judge, she does, however, tell it like it is.
Things I've learned from my mama:
+ Music should be listened to at high volumes, and the words should speak to you. It tells a story and a song can mean a lot, and take you back to a great place and time.
+ Be positive. Now, neither of us always live up to this, but we try really hard.
+ Have fun. But not too much fun.
+ Spank your kids. I know this sounds harsh, and a lot of people won't agree with this, but in my family this is how we got punished and it worked. She didn't beat us, but we got the point.
+ Work hard. I don't think I've ever met someone who works as hard as my mom. When she and my dad got divorced when I was about four, she had to go to work full-time. She has been in construction for well over twenty years and she continues to kick butt at it.
+ Wear comfortable clothes. My mom hates to be uncomfortable. I think her closet is half-full of clothes my sister or I encouraged her to buy that she just isn't comfortable in.
+ Don't hoard anything. When I was about ten we had a house fire, and ever since then we don't hoard anything. That helped us to see that there are a lot of material things that we just don't need. And when it came to our clothes every six months we had to go through our closet and get rid of things we didn't wear, and donate them- I still do this.
+ Be independant. There's nothing wrong with relying on people for certain things, but my mom has always been independant and she taught me to do the same thing. (sometimes too much to where I'm like "I don't need anyone," which isn't always true)
+ Don't be jealous. Ever since she and my step-dad got married she's struggled with this and she doesn't want the same for me.
+ Be happy! That's all she ever wants for me.
+ Be goofy. Who cares who's watching.
Thanks Mom for the lessons!